Bianca Alexa

Black woman with the flying long hair

I’ve had a lot of run-ins with prejudice or simple stupidity from strangers regarding my natural hair, it’s hard to keep track of them all. A great deal of the feedback I receive is mostly positive, therefore it always outweighs the bad, but I get random people reaching to touch my hair without asking and assuming it’s fake or a wig.

I was at a Christmas party once and, when the subject of my hair texture and volume came up in conversation, I was talking to a group of people who were mostly White. It all started as simple curiosity and some nice words here and there, but then suddenly five different hands were reaching for my hair and stroking it. They made comments like, ‘Oh, it’s really soft,’ and ‘Wow, it doesn’t feel like I expected.’ I felt so self-conscious.

I’m disappointed that a person was allowed to, in essence, force you to pet them on the head. Someone who had never interacted with me before came up and began stroking my hair as if I were a puppy they wanted to console. It was extremely inconsiderate. Now whenever someone talks about my hair, I automatically back away since I sense them wanting to grab it without asking. ‘I had no choice but to come over and check out your hair from the front,’ she added.

“The woman next to me asked if I was with any other curly-haired individuals. Then she looked at me and asked, ‘Do you know each other because of your hair?,’ as if it were a strange occurrence. ” — Bianca AlexaMominatu Boog

Close up of Black woman with dreadlocks“I had a bad hair day, and I went to a fitness studio after getting my hair blown out. My instructor became obsessed with touching my hair right away, in awe. Although it was a harmless act, I felt like I was a pet. I’ve been made to feel as if my personality is tied up in my locks. In the most dramatic voice of India Arie, please let people know that my not— Mominatu Boog

The style of my hair does not take away from my accomplishments, nor does your opinion define my beauty.